tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post2151178093600947108..comments2023-11-03T04:49:04.527-07:00Comments on The Anti-Wife: Thoughts on internet dating!The Anti-Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02027321787352577548noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-824531932717554502007-06-09T10:12:00.000-07:002007-06-09T10:12:00.000-07:00Oy... 'Guys want to be needed...'- Everyone wants ...Oy... 'Guys want to be needed...'<BR/><BR/>- Everyone wants to be needed, it's not dependant on anatomy. If I were single and searching for someone to spend my time with, the last thing I'd want is someone who is happy that I'm not content... I don't need saving and I'm not interested in pretending to in order to stroke some guy's ego - most self respecting women would feel very much the same.<BR/><BR/>And I love your ideals on the evoluction of marriage... Marriages stayed intact historically because it was socially unacceptible to do anything else. Period. A woman could be beaten, bludgeoned, cheated on, and degraded. She would still choose that existence over divorce. It's evolved a touch since then. Regardless of your mode in meeting a mate, spouse, life partner, you are not forced to stay in the relationship through any outward pressure, other than perhaps economics or pressures you're instilling upon yourself.<BR/><BR/>Marriages succeeded in previous centuries - yes. But how many of those marriages were happy and how many continued because there was simply no choice?<BR/><BR/>I'd rather be happy and alone than married and miserable... I don't consider the later to be a triumph.Merry Monteleonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435956005780500310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-32000248711780154652007-06-09T06:05:00.000-07:002007-06-09T06:05:00.000-07:00Well, even with my limited social skills I can see...Well, even with my limited social skills I can see that the profile you posted would probably not work to acquire a mate.<BR/><BR/>First of all, beginning the ad with "perfectly content" would deter many responders. Guys want to be needed, and you clearly state your own lack of a need, so why respond?<BR/><BR/>Second, your ad is filled with "must be" specifications. As someone who's owned an automobile dealership for many years, I will draw a comparison between used boyfriends and used cars.<BR/><BR/>Those who come in saying, "it must be red," drive away with a piece of junk just because it's red, where someone who says, "what's the nicest mid-size Mercedes you've got within my budget" gets the good car.<BR/><BR/>It sounds like whatever issues you speak of may still be preventing you from engaging in a productive search.<BR/><BR/>I recently read a book on the history and evolution of marriage. One thing that struck me is this: You can now post an ad on the Internet, and search among thousands of guys for the ideal mate. Just as they can search for you.<BR/><BR/>And yet, many studies have suggested that the rate of marital satisfaction obtained by these modern methods (using a huge field of choice) is the same or lower than was obtained by the parents who arranged marriages in India in the past century, or by the farm kids who married the girl from the next farm here in America in 1900.John Robisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07407165016025447113noreply@blogger.com