tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post6364511948355194211..comments2023-11-03T04:49:04.527-07:00Comments on The Anti-Wife: HonestyThe Anti-Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02027321787352577548noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-43890133660433296522008-08-02T02:56:00.000-07:002008-08-02T02:56:00.000-07:00When I got to the ending here, I damn near cheered...When I got to the ending here, I damn near cheered! NOTHING pisses me off more than someone lying like that. Guaranteed if they lie like this in the beginning, they'll get up to serious stuff if you're dumb enough to get involved. Good for you for telling him off!! Kim's solution was fun, but yours was the most satisfying. I might be able to stick through the date long enough to get all those treats, but the steam hissing out of my ears would give me away. <BR/><BR/>And if you aren't interested in those Aspergians John Robison knows, let me know and I'll go out with them. (Just kidding -- in case my husband is reading this...)<BR/><BR/>I just had my photograph taken. I had them leave in the crow's feet. They're mine; I've worked hard for them. I'm working on the flabby arms, though.Mary Witzlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06458299046574564155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-87804240920170579882008-08-01T12:25:00.000-07:002008-08-01T12:25:00.000-07:00Good grief that's incredible, but oh so believable...Good grief that's incredible, but oh so believable. Well done you for taking a stand and marching out, if only you'd had red ticker tape to trail behind you.<BR/>CheersMaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05828186178060722812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-31195721707895248502008-08-01T06:21:00.000-07:002008-08-01T06:21:00.000-07:00Nice. In similar circumstances, I would probably ...Nice. In similar circumstances, I would probably have said something like, "Yeah sorry, I'm shallow like that. Let me know when you're better looking"kyknoordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01376671662670291957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-85592262185716675252008-07-30T14:17:00.000-07:002008-07-30T14:17:00.000-07:00Oh please go out with one of John's friends and bl...Oh please go out with one of John's friends and blog about it!<BR/>hehehehe!<BR/>Okay, you don't have to blog. (as long as you have a hidden camera)<BR/><BR/>Still kidding!!<BR/><BR/>But I do love the matchmaking part. Go for it!!<BR/>:-)Chris Eldinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11794946908789120139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-21914535087695302762008-07-30T14:03:00.000-07:002008-07-30T14:03:00.000-07:00I agree! Very well done. And hey. Now you got John...I agree! Very well done. And hey. Now you got John out there match making for you...ORIONhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01534064935115027523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-69171460508040777062008-07-30T04:48:00.000-07:002008-07-30T04:48:00.000-07:00I think you said and did exactly the right thing.I think you said and did exactly the right thing.Bernitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05264585685253812090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-85726136475156486832008-07-28T20:08:00.000-07:002008-07-28T20:08:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Polly Kahlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08144327981127333878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-33156946256585257072008-07-28T20:07:00.000-07:002008-07-28T20:07:00.000-07:00I think you handled it beautifully and I think Joh...I think you handled it beautifully and I think John's ideas about meeting men is great too. I hope I'd have the ovaries to do exactly what you did.<BR/><BR/>Coincidentally, I blogged about this very issue on the singles blog I used to write for the local newspaper. Here's the entry, and I hope the link works.<BR/>http://internetservices.readingeagle.com/blog/singles/2006/10/the_old_bait_and_switch.htmlPolly Kahlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08144327981127333878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-8709933445497111932008-07-28T16:53:00.000-07:002008-07-28T16:53:00.000-07:00Good for you. That he lied was the real issue, was...Good for you. That he lied was the real issue, wasn't it. Years ago, a friend put an ad in the personals section of a local magazine. Did I mention that she put it in MY name?<BR/> I got letters from a variety of folks---some from the state prison wanting to spend time with me in front of a roaring fire (really). And some from men "in the process of divorcing---my wife doesn't understand me." Tricky stuff.debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17676300309029588465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-16622255506767051382008-07-28T14:30:00.000-07:002008-07-28T14:30:00.000-07:00You did the 2nd best thing. I have to admit, Kim's...You did the 2nd best thing. I have to admit, Kim's idea was #1 in my book! (At least up to the flouncing part. I'm not a flouncer.)<BR/><BR/>Oy, Anti. I also have to admit that after reading this post, I ran to the other end of the house and gave my Goy Wonder a BIG hug.<BR/><BR/>Sending you good Boulder vibes...Doreen Orionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12026294659806001562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-35617156449298696822008-07-28T12:13:00.000-07:002008-07-28T12:13:00.000-07:00I share your disgust. Did he really think he could...I share your disgust. Did he really think he could make a connection that way? I can forgive all sorts of things, but not deception. Begin with lies and you have nowhere to go.<BR/><BR/>I bet he really believes it's all about his looks, rather than his pathetic lies.Liane Spicerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05035607144500219524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-33057563913837673742008-07-28T12:06:00.000-07:002008-07-28T12:06:00.000-07:00This is a great post.And OF COURSE you did the rig...This is a great post.<BR/>And OF COURSE you did the right thing. The man was a flipping cad, even if he was an eyesore compared to 10 years ago. <BR/><BR/>I hate liars!Holly Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02336717023482533615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-42994891675520199252008-07-28T10:12:00.000-07:002008-07-28T10:12:00.000-07:00AW,Unfortunately, some people lie and they very ra...AW,<BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, some people lie and they very rarely think about how much it irritates them to be lied to.<BR/><BR/>I doubt this guy got any sort of growth or lesson from the exchange - he likely blames you for being too shallow to be attracted to him with all of his flaws. And this type of thing is why, with hundreds of people around us, most of us spend the majority of our lives unable to really connect to any of them...<BR/><BR/>Sorry you had such a bad meeting, but don't let that one cretin dissuade you... there are some honest people out there.Merry Monteleonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09435956005780500310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-48028089711583546022008-07-28T08:54:00.000-07:002008-07-28T08:54:00.000-07:00I think you did the right thing and I applaud you ...I think you did the right thing and I applaud you for the courage to do so. Maybe the guy will now reevaluate his approach.Travis Erwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09420879160702098979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-63656581688186341772008-07-28T04:49:00.000-07:002008-07-28T04:49:00.000-07:00You got me thinking . . . there are two nice singl...You got me thinking . . . there are two nice single Aspergian guys I know out here from the Asperger Association get-togethers . . . one 55, one 61, both successful, in good shape, and not tricky.<BR/><BR/>You live in a major metropolital area. There must be suitable guys out there.<BR/><BR/>If I were looking for a female, I don't think I'd look on a site like match because I believe (as you illustrated) that the largest part of the ads are deceptive, and most of my time would therefore be wasted.<BR/><BR/>I think I would seek situations where I could meet and engage prospects in a natural setting.John Robisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07407165016025447113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-16428289334030810892008-07-28T04:41:00.000-07:002008-07-28T04:41:00.000-07:00What do I think? You should date an Aspergian. W...What do I think? You should date an Aspergian. We don't - as a rule - engage in that kind of subterfuge. We say what we think, and we aren't tricky.<BR/><BR/>People often remark that "I look just like my pictures" as if that's unusual. They say, "You sound just like your writing," as if that's unusual too. <BR/><BR/>What do they expect me to look and sound like? It's like people are primed for deception and it's a relief when someone plays it straight. Is it that unusual?<BR/><BR/>I read stories like yours and wonder what the guy was thinking . . . may he figured you all lie.<BR/><BR/>To me, if I were fat, bald, and unappetizing, I would see one of two possibilities:<BR/><BR/>1) I would resolve to accept the kind of girl who'd be interested in a pig like me.<BR/><BR/>2) I would get into shape to attract a wider variety of more appealing girls.<BR/><BR/>The idea that I could acquire a desirable girl by trickery is just foolish.John Robisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07407165016025447113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-78044559170123939852008-07-27T22:04:00.000-07:002008-07-27T22:04:00.000-07:00I would have done exactly the same thing. Best to ...I would have done exactly the same thing. Best to tell them upfront what the problem is, then leave. And, smart you for meeting a strange man in a public place.Barbara Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00610140328527165017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-20575450464795761782008-07-27T21:31:00.000-07:002008-07-27T21:31:00.000-07:00I'm thinking I probably would try to make a speedy...I'm thinking I probably would try to make a speedy exit -not sure I would be confident enough to explain exactly why I was leaving though, although it would have been for the reasons as you stated to him. Way to go though!Jenihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16425701332785470116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-51559545170782226792008-07-27T19:15:00.000-07:002008-07-27T19:15:00.000-07:00Hilarious scenario, Anti. I'm jealous that you th...Hilarious scenario, Anti. I'm jealous that you thought of such a scathing remark on the spot like that. I probably would have faked diarrhea and hid in the bathroom till he left. But I would have wanted to say what you did!Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12396540555696283171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-82372414744551906662008-07-27T18:32:00.000-07:002008-07-27T18:32:00.000-07:00I hope I would've had the courage to do the same. ...I hope I would've had the courage to do the same. Good on you. Yes, liars have deep character flaws. *shudders*<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry it turned out like that. But are you writing these folks into your work? I LOVE your descriptions (especially the belly flopping over the belt!)Chris Eldinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11794946908789120139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-48873377879116750122008-07-27T18:13:00.000-07:002008-07-27T18:13:00.000-07:00AW: I'd have done exactly what you did.Good for y...AW: I'd have done exactly what you did.<BR/><BR/>Good for you for telling him why.Maya Reynoldshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12791278987339976101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-78363415308135648812008-07-27T17:18:00.000-07:002008-07-27T17:18:00.000-07:00Hmmm, depending on my mood, I'd have muttered a sw...Hmmm, depending on my mood, I'd have muttered a swear at him and walk out OR I'd have let him buy me a triple venti quadruple shot latte and four scones and one of those giant rice krispie bars and a k.d. lang CD and a new set of coffee mugs and an Italian coffee maker and a sandwich to pop into my purse for lunch later on as I flounced out yelling, "Liar! Liar! Sans-A-Belt's on Fire!"<BR/><BR/>That said - I'm sorry you went through that. A lie isn't a cool place to begin. Althought he occasional lie is OK in a marriage. I just posted about that today - after an unfortunate utterance by my husband about a new swimsuit I'd bought.<BR/><BR/>Cheers/WOOF!<BR/><BR/>KIMKim Rossi Staglianohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17687828526726281119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8410616401062748816.post-3193004668137352512008-07-27T17:11:00.000-07:002008-07-27T17:11:00.000-07:00AW, I would have done that exact same thing you di...AW, I would have done that exact same thing you did, but might not as been as nice. Nothing gets under my skin more than lying. Rape and plunder me and I might forgive you. Lie to me and we have nowhere to go.Tréehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11742129819547567342noreply@blogger.com